Truth: I am the type of person who puts other peoples’ needs in front of my own.
Truth: There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Truth: Over the past year I realized I haven’t been taking care of myself and once I got back into yoga, I learned the importance of self-care.
Initially, I struggled with the concept of self-care for a while because I have a hard time thinking of myself first, it seems selfish to me. But then I realized it’s the intentions behind what you’re doing that makes something self-centered (or selfish) vs. self-care. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines self-centered as “concerned solely with one’s own desires, needs, or interests” and that’s not what self-care is.
The Blissful Mind defines self-care as,
activities and practices we engage in on a regular basis to reduce stress and enhance our well-being
I’m learning I can’t fully show up for others if my battery isn’t fully charged or my cup isn’t full (to quote popular sayings when describing self-care). Through this process I’ve learned about some of the different dimensions of self-care so I split my list up into the different ways I de-stress as well as the different ways I practice self-care (and you’ll find some of these things overlap!).
How I De-Stress
- Have a margarita at the end of the day (if margs are not an option, a glass of wine)
- Eat something I love: Even if it isn’t the “most healthy” option (like Mexican food, pizza, chocolate, etc.)
- Do a brain dump: Sometimes it helps see everything I’m stressing about written down so I can start to decide what top priorities are
- Watch an episode of something I love: Usually Parks & Recreation because it makes me laugh but also Law & Order: SVU or whatever show I’m currently into
- Take a bath with my favorite bath bombs: I recommend literally anything from Lush
- Go for a walk: Sometimes stepping away from whatever I’m working on and taking a five minute walk is the best way to reset my mind
- Dance it out: Thank you for this one, Grey’s Anatomy (see also, this scene because FEELS). I have a “Dance It Out” playlist on Spotify that I listen to when I need a boost!
Ways I Practice Self-Care
- Treat Yo Self: Treating yourself every once in a while (not excessively) is a great way to practice self-care. Get a mani/pedi or massage, buy a beautiful new candle or indulge in dessert
- Get away from screens: Read instead or get outside
- Journal: Whether that’s art journaling or writing in a journal, express yourself in a safe place
- Yoga: This is also a way I de-stress but getting on my mat and moving my body always makes me feel better
- Meditate: There are awesome apps for meditation (I mentioned my favorite here) or even googling “guided meditations” pulls up great results
- Daily affirmations: Recently I’ve been starting my day by writing down a few affirmations to meditate on and focus on throughout the day. Rachel from #dreamcreatedo has awesome lists of affirmations on her blog! (See here, here & here)
- Get cozy: I love putting on yoga pants + a comfy t-shirt and wrapping up in my softest blanket.
- Talk to a loved one: Meet up to talk face to face or call someone you trust (98% of the time, I call my mom).
- Go to bed early: Sometimes embracing #grandmastatus is the best way to take care of yourself.
- Say no: If you don’t want to do something, say no. (Still working on this myself)
- Listen to favorite music: That album/artist/playlist that always makes you feel better? Put that on.
What are some ways you de-stress and practice self-care? I hope these lists help inspire you to practice self-care this weekend, you deserve it!






The boyfriend and I also went to Chatham Hill Winery last Friday after I discovered it’s not even five minutes from my house. It was a quiet Friday night scene and not really his thing, but I’m still glad we went because they have wine slushies y’all. So Raleigh wine-loving friends, let me know when you want to go and I’m down!




In my bedroom, I had an empty wall above my desk and since I’ve actually been using my desk for it’s intended purpose since I moved, I decided I needed to hang something there. But for this space, I didn’t want it to be anything framed. I wanted the space to resemble more of an inspiration board since I’ve been doing a lot of work there. Since I didn’t really want anything to be permanent, I started looking for other ways to hang things. That’s when I discovered 







I stopped in
On Sunday, I checked out the State Farmer’s Market with my boyfriend’s mom. We had brunch (technically, since we both ordered breakfast) at the State Farmer’s Market Restaurant and then checked out the actual market. It’s pretty cool that this farmer’s market is open all year, seven days a week! I’m used to the farmer’s markets in Richmond only being open on specific weekends during the month with limited hours, so it’s nice to know this one is always available! I was looking for flowers to put in my apartment, but the floral arrangements were much bigger than I was expecting. But we came away with peaches, corn and tomatoes so it was still a successful trip in my book!
Saturday night I had a craving for cupcakes so after doing a little research, I drove to Cameron Village to get gluten free cupcakes from Sugarland! I was surprised, and excited, to see they were open until 11 pm and decided to give them a try. I got two “Thrilla in Vanilla” cupcakes and they were delicious. A lot of bakeries in Richmond put a ton of super heavy frosting on their cupcakes which is great and all, but a girl can only handle so much sugar. Sugarland’s gluten free cupcakes did not have this problem. They were the perfect ratio of cupcake to frosting. I’ll definitely be back.